Old dog seeks new trick 7

[rd500]

Hey OD. very hard time for you. Take your time , you can't carry on as you are because it's too painful but at the same time don't rush into anything you might regret. Take each day as in comes an please know that you will be happy again

Take care. Rd

[Maybell]

Pick one thing you can change TODAY, OD, and commit to changing it. You deserve that. It gets easier as you get further along.

REMINDER:

"She took a step and didn't want to take any more, but she did.”
-- Markus Zusak, The Book Thief

^^^^^ Should be YOU.

[Old Dog]

If there was a list of things, I could pick one out but there doesn't seem to be.

Rather than maintain complete radio silence, I decided to do the decent thing and text WAW to say I've had a couple of drinks so I won't be back until tomorrow. That'll cheer her up not having to avoid me.

That probably doesn't really count though. Why can I change today?

[Maybell]

You mean WHAT can you change today?

What have you done today that's made you feel worst about yourself?

[gan]

Old Dog, glad to see others chiming in. Another suggestion - the change you decide to make today doesn't need to be huge and it doesn't need to be forever. My mum always says (and I see Maybell says it too) you don't need to eat the whole elephant in one go. Break it into smaller pieces.

What is something small you can commit to for say 2 weeks? I'm suggesting 2 weeks to help try to break through your yoyo cycle.

[Old Dog]

Oh yes, I do mean what can I change today. Didn't notice the typo.

Maybell the reframing queen. I like it. It would useful to learn how to do that.

What did I do today that I can stop? You know what I'd like to stop? Waiting. That's what. Waiting for someone else.

The elephant thing. I don't really want to eat an elephant. I'm vegetarian.

Can I just use the example in Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance instead?

Hey look everybody, I'm getting a sliver of my mojo back. So tired now though. Go to sleep.

[Maybell]

Ok, then the first thing you concentrate on is moving. You do that by practicing reframing. Every time you notice yourself in that pattern, ask yourself what you can do in the moment to change it. Even if it's nothing more noticeable than a bit of your attitude, change it.

I like your mojo. Fake it till you become it, Not So Old Dog.

[Old Dog]

Moving? You mean me physically moving about? Walking, running, dancing* etc?

I already try to walk tall. I have been doing that since June. Every time I walk somewhere, it's head up, shoulders back, brisk pace and I also put a little smile on my face. I enjoy doing it.

Years ago, I once saw a friend of mine at a house party dancing in the middle of the throng totally engrossed in the music with a huge smile on. I was so impressed by how much fun he was having that I decided to do that too. So when I used to go out where dancing was involved, I'd try the same. And now, when I remember to practice faking it, that's also what I do.

* I have a mind to perhaps learn to dance as a GAL activity.

[Old Dog]

My mild, I think, OCD tendencies won't let me start another thread until I've wrung the maximum out of this one :-)

[gan]

Dancing it is! Pick a style and look up classes. Report back when you've made a booking