WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

I've come to a realisation today that W is really clutching at straws for reasons to spew as she has been lately.. It seems now that my validation and neighbourly/business like manner that was the cause of the text outburst I received the other day..

Basically it all started with a text convo earlier.. Here is the rundown

W calls (I didn't hear it)

10 mins later W texts

W: Would you like me to bring the game console over for you to set up for the boys?.

(We had already agreed that it would be sorted next weekend)

Me: We are not around at the moment, but you could drop it up later if you were near the area..

W: Okay not a problem. I won't worry about it.

Me: No worries.. Have a good day..

Roughly 30 mins later

W: I can come over for a coffee now if you want..

Me: We are still out at the moment but will be back in about an hour..

W: I have stuff to do so I'll see how I go..

Me: Righto then, Well we will see you in the morning.. Have a great day..

W: I've got to get (a matter) sorted that's why.. I'm waiting for (parent) to finish work and get home that's why I can come around nowish..

Me: Well we are out and about so we'll probably have to give it a miss.. Talk to you later..

W: Yeah..

I stopped there..

So we get home and roughly 15 mins later W is on my doorstep unannounced with the game console.. I said thank you and invited her in for a coffee..

She hit me with a possible change we could have with the kids time between each of us.. I reiterate that visitation and splitting of the kids between us has NEVER been an issue regarding times and when etc.. We have a minimum time that has been agreed to, but more has never been an issue..

Basically, she said I could have them each weekend instead of every other.. Due to my work hours, a week on week off basis would not work hence the weekends.. As much as I'd love to have them each weekend, I can't help but to think there is an ulterior motive behind it.. I asked if we could sit down and talk about such plans without the kids around as I would like to be able to take all the info in without distraction.. She said she would let me know..

She changed her conversation to the message, and I said to her that I didn't want to engage in that conversation, but I did mention that it was a silly thought and that I have no intention of taking the kids away from her whilst they were safe and looked after, and that I was sorry she felt that way.. Now, as much info as I have found out, I must admit they are safe AT THE MOMENT..

She then said that "the way I am wording everything lately" is the reason she thinks that I am wanting to take them away.. The only thing I have been "wording" in last month or 2 is validation, neighbourly interaction and setting boundaries as I can when the time arises..

Basically, like I said W is clutching at straws for things to spew at me about if validation is an issue.. I'm guessing she is feeling as though she is losing control of the situation hence the unrequited and uncalled for spew.. There is pretty obviously a reach out happening here, especially with todays unannounced visit.. Where it is going, I don't know, and don't really care until more actions are made..