Db'd after W D me in 04 remarried W in 07 DB again

[Jbird]

I have to vent a little, it helps me to get the anger and hurt off my mind.

Most of the day was spent with W and I talking, laughing and joking. I did a lot of listening and validating. She also said, "don't make breakfast, I want to pay you back for all the good meals you made this week, I like my cook." She brought home a chicken biscuit sandwich with butter/honey sauce for me that she likes, I thought it was horrible, but I said it was good because she was doing something nice for me.

Then tonight she asked, "did I tell you I got mad at xxxx (W's male classmate/previous employee of mine) and I quit talking to him?" I said, "no I don't think so."

W replied, "I recommended my realtor friend jjjj (male friend of W/ like a brother friend) and xxxx said I can't use him because I had an affair with his wife abt 25 yrs ago! I told xxxx that I would never talk to him again! I just can't believe xxxx would do something like that he was so religious. I guess I have a lot to talk about? Should I tell jjjj?
I said, "jjjj is engaged to a new gf, right?" W responded, "yes but I feel like I am betraying jjjj because he is like a brother."

So W has had at least 3 PAs and at least 3 EAs during our time together, which I try not to think about. Then she has to get advice from me about what to do about xxxx and jjjj and how she just want to throw up because this bothers her so much.

I left the room because it was starting to bring me down. I guess it must have shown because W asked if she offended me, I said oh no not a all I just had to change clothes in the washing machine. That's a 180 for me to not voice my opinion.

Sometimes I just feel the hurt of multiple As too much!