Listen, if the talk is going to cause you anxiety, dont have it. Your choice. I always believe knowledge is power, though. But I get it, you arent sure you can pull it off.
So, let's work through what the anxiety is about? If you are just information gathering, you can just let him talk. Validate when you can, dont get emotional.
You have power here, S. You are getting your ducks in a row. You are finding your strength. He cant hurt you anymore, sweetie. He isnt in charge of your life. You are.
If it were me, I would get myself looking good and walk in there with att-it-tude. The attitude being...dude, you think you are going to sit there and intimidate me with divorce talk...hell to the no cuz I got me some information. LOL!
If you do go, I am not sure I would say anything about using her. That tips your hand. You can always say that at another time.
I know this feels like a game and its your life. But it has to be played like a game for right now in order to protect you and your daughter.
