Hello Nitty. Would you be interested to give us another update? It's been over a month.
I found your Christmas gift story to be interesting. It reminded me a lot of the "covert contracts" in No More Mr. Nice Guy. This book encourages everyone (especially nice guys...) to learn to have their needs fulfilled. You say "Don't give me anything", but you mean "Surprise me!" You give gifts, but you actually expect some in returns. If you want a love letter, just say so. I know next to nothing about your sitch, but from this little glimpse, it sounds like there's tremendous potential to improve your R by learning to state your needs. We men can be clueless without meaning to be hurtful.
Good luck.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.