daring,
Everything happens for a reason, a reason we will not know until the time is right.

Continue to focus on the positives and uR is correct...you do know your truth.

You are in a good position to take care of your children and stability is very important. Finances will take a second place on the list after the children because you need a nest egg to fall back on and you have one, i.e., your practice.

Keep your focus on what is important...you and your children. Your h is clueless and you can't save him. He has to do that.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.