i was the WAW in my first marriage. By the time I decided to end things I was emotionally done. I did not have an affair. I did though feel more respected and appreciated by other men that I was around at work.

Initially as hurtful as they may sound. Your wife will feel some relieve from the no contact. It is very stressful when you feel emotionally detached to have someone pressuring you. ( begging pleading). If you can give her space and time it will work to your advantage. Once the stress and pressure is lifted when you do have some contact or she sees you the contact will be more welcomed. Kinda like when you see an old friend you haven't seen for a while and you are happy to catch up.

This will only happen though if you don't talk about the R. and if you appear happy and together. This didn't happen overnight and it will not turn around overnight. Any push and she will go further away. I know I did.

Me 52 H 44
T9 M 5
BD 12/11 H
split 8/12
OW moved in 12/12
OW gone for good 6/14
We get closer again 9/14
SD 13 Me 4 Grown





Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.