When my wife and I are interceding with a couple coping with infidelity in our church there are times the wayward spouse will indicate that my wife told her x,y and z and such was NEVER indicated by my wife. We try to remember to forewarn the betrayed spouse that they can double check with us if their wayward spouse indicates we advised or told her to do something and it doesn't seem consistent with the overall plan. It's not always because they are flat out lying....though that is typically why it happens as they use whatever they can to manipulate the situation while they are still covered in sin, however sometimes they just hear what they want to hear.
Also, informing the military of OM's behavior is precisely what needed to be done. Adultery is still illegal in the military so all you've done is report a crime. It's your duty to report the crimes of fellow servicemen. OM is jeopardizing his unit and the honor of his command. This is bigger than just you and your wife. No matter what they they SHOULD, at the very least, order "No Contact".
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
