Thanks for your vote of confidence, rppfl I work at a college and regularly meet with families who are trying to decide where to go (well, really the student is supposed to decide but it's become more and more a family endeavor nowadays..) so I totally get that analogy. I feel like I kind of "picked" H like I picked my college - "well - it's close by and I know I'll be admitted, and it's familiar, so why not?" Maybe if I had spent more time dating and see what was out there in high school/college I wouldn't have felt he was my only option. Speaking of working at a college, there are very few men to choose from, at least in my profession or that are my age. There are lots of male faculty (I work in a science department) but they are all much older or married. But in my particular role, the people in other departments are almost all female.. I can't honestly think of any single adult males that are within 5 years either way of my age! I'm not sure where to meet them either, besides online, and I feel like creating a profile that says "currently separated" is not going to attract the right type of people. This friend of a friend that I met in December is the only prospect on my radar so far.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final