As far as money convos, yeah I'm just trying to keep it all friendly. Lawyers just bleed you dry. I got some advice about the house and I still have full rights so that's all I need to know right now. I just said we will need to revisit it in the future to which she agreed.
I would STRONGLY urge you to reconsider this stance. You don't have to retain an expensive attorney if you cannot afford it (although it IS the best way to go if you CAN). You guys can work with a good mediator, affordably, and then each pay your own family law atty by the hour to review the mediated agreement and advise you before signing.
I hope it never comes to that for you guys, but if it does please protect yourself and don't be naive. Ours is by it's nature an adversarial legal system, and there's a reason why they put that little "v" in between the two parties' names.
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Hey starsky
I completely get what your saying. Im a child of a very acrimonious divorce so i'm not naļve to how things can go even when you both start out with best intentions. For now I have confirmed legally that I can if I so wish move back into my own home anytime. There is nothing she could do about that as it is jointly owned. This is what I needed to know. Once I've move out and have started to get my life back on track a bit I will definitely be taking some more legal advice surrounding separation/divorce. My wife is fully aware that she would need to buy me out of this house if this is going to be permanent. My rental will be 6 months and I can survive ok for now. Divorce hasn't been mentioned yet. I'm UK based by the way so not sure what difference is to US law. Just as am example of solicitors, the one I spoke to the other day after giving me freely the advice I needed then started trying to sell me a £1000 separation agreement. I just laughed. That is a lot of money to me and the wife at the moment and there is no way I can afford to spend that just so someone can right down the rules of our separation. At the moment its amicable. I hope it stays that way but I do appreciate your point and I take it on board.
