Down days are all a part of the process. You will get through them and be better than ever before in the end.
One thing that helps me...focusing on the things I DON'T miss about my spouse.
-His impatience and moodiness -His limited way of looking at opportunities -His lethargy -His ability to ruin a really great day or holiday with his Debbie Downer attitude -His control-freakiness -His negativity
You get the idea. Focus on what things you Don't miss and you begin to see some blessings in his leaving. The grief you feel will pass...I PROMISE...and, you will begin to see that he is only human with some very troubling issues.
We went for a day trip to Lake Placid a few weeks back. On the way home, the tire pressure light came on. I stopped and put some air in the tires. Well, it was 0 degrees out and I dropped the cap to the air thingy. It's freezing. FREEZING. My D20 got out and helped me find the cap. It took a bit, but we found it.
When we got back in the car, she said, "It's times like these that I'm really glad dad isn't here. We had this great day and...had he been here for the "Cap Crisis," he would have probably ruined the memory for everyone. He would have gotten all pi$$y and angry and mean and belittling. We would, forever, remember this trip as the one where we lost the cap on the airy thingy."
As it happens, we have a great memory of a day in Lake Placid...there's only a blip of a memory about the tire. :-)
You will get there...but you gotta get through first.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
