SRD, you handled that very well (nix the initiating of hugs if you can, but the "yes, this is hard on ALL of us" /"we'll be OK" stance is tone-perfect.

Don't get into any legal convos with her -- that's what lawyers are for.

Good job!

Starsky

M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)