Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[susana4]

Well I don't expect reconciliation when she realizes things. It won't change a thing unless her feelings for me came back. That's the only thing that would matter in a reconciliation.

I'm certainly not an expert in reconciliation being a newbie around here too, but having read some piecing stories, it sounds to me like the feelings don't just come back overnight, it's something you have to work at and is a big challenge (just preparing you in case you get to that point, I don't think you can just expect her feelings to come back right away).

The next steps, take care of myself. This is the ONE AND ONLY solution to all my issues. I need to emotionally mature. I think that is my problem. I read an extremely good article about it. I'm not an emotional mature person.
My W thinks that, I believe it. And I gotta become a complete person, love and forgive myself.
Big part of why our M broke apart, you can't have a fulfilling R if you are not in peace with yourself.

So true!! That's what I'm working on too. What are your plans for doing that? (And if you figure it out please tell me how, ha!)