Yes we were swingers, but irrelevant of what a couples boundaries are the hy shouldn't be crossed. Our boundaries were a lot further out than most people's but they have still been crossed. She met the guy on a night out with a female freind, I beleive the freind was used as a patsy, and it was pre-arranged. In our lifestyle it's just meant to be sex, lovemaking stays at home and your not dating others.
Two Friday's ago she met a guy who she had been speaking to on whatsapp for several weeks. This was apparently coincidental, but I now know it was planned. I flipped out and a weekend of tough chatting ensued then Sunday night I saw a message on her phone and opened it. I scrolled through the conversation and found her saying on the Saturday morning after she had spent the night in a hotel with him, messages saying "I really felt we made love this morning" and about 3 saying "I love you". Then despite me begging she went out all day Saturday and most of Sunday with him, including hotel dinner concert and daytime walking about and lunch.
I broke down and she then told me I needed to move out to get better as I am being controlling and she feels suffocated.
I know she is meeting the guy tonight, should I confront her or tell her that I know? We always promised we would never have affairs as both our parents divorces were caused by it. Or do I just play along? She has stormed off and is staying at a freinds, yet all she packed was all her beauty stuff, sexy lingerie and party dresses...
T:13 yrs M:11 Me: 36 Her: 33 Living apart Her having affair She Asked me to move out 26th jan 2015 3 kids D13 S10 D10 D not mentioned yet
