Oh T, that is so cute... you are 28 years old and you are so smart, talented and gentle. You are awesome. Need to have a talk to that wife of yours and tell her what she is missing.
First, I want the Legal separation with the purpose to protect myself and my kids just in case H goes crazy spending a lot of money. We always had everything joint. And when I say everything I mean it all. So, before regretting it I will do it.
The reason I said I am making a point is about the Legal Separation or D. I am filling for a LS do make a point to H that if he wants the D, then he will need to do this himself and that's why I will do the LS. I refuse to file for D since it is not my decision or desire for it.
Regarding to being a good or bad father... I totally agree with you. It's my H responsibility to be a good father, to support his kids, to help them to grow up and be decent men. I guess I am just upset that he is so absent in their lives since it all start last august. I wish he could just understand all the damage he is doing to his kids.
But I understand, he will need to wake up and realize what is going on. And for me, I will be a good mom. I have always been and will do my best to support my kids, more like my teenagers.
And yes, about getting separate legally gives me a sense of fairness. I guess it is my bloody sense of honesty. I have been going out with friends, it's awkward when I know I am still married to him. And you are right, I am very tired of the whole situation.
I am not a very patient person, I like to know what to expect from what I do, I like to have my financial life under control and do things I want to do without fear, so with the separation it will also stop the the limbo, the fear of things going wrong and regretting being emotional and not practical.
I am convinced that if there is any possibility to get back together, it will happen with legal separation or not. The reality is that what I see going on now makes me believe that my hopes are getting really slimmer every day. My H just spent two weeks on a honeymoon with his lover and he is just so happy he can't remember he has a family. So be it. Lose it all, be on your own, if it works we will all survive and deal with our lives the best way we can and know. If it does not work, maybe H will come back, maybe I will want him back, and maybe we can start working on "US".
There is so much to heal, so I will deal with it if things change one day. My H is gone, the man he is now is not the man I was married before.
Well T, I need to start over and I will. It's just a matter of time. I will follow my path and for now it means I need to find what is important for myself.
And hey T, you sound really cute. Did I tell you that my whole college time I was in love with an air force pilot? Yeah, always had a thing for the uniform. I did grow up right beside the air force base.
SUPER BOWL... We are all PATS... we used to live in Boston before coming to Colorado. It's was a great place to live. I still miss the place and the people. I felt really good there and of course we will be all for the Pats. Besides the fact that Tom Brady's bud is gorgeous. But, we can't under estimate the Hawks because they are very talented as well, and they will fight hard during this game. Not sure about the half time show though.
