I am sad that W has decided to tell you about D in this way. And as a wayward W was in the car with you had a great deal of challenges in this. Be aware that WAS like drama and can initiate it to create a justification for their behaviour to themselves. Such a situation was made for drama. There are quieter and more dignified ways to advise your H that you have filed for D. Ins be aware that drama can be the life blood of a WAS so being dignified, validating, calming and firm is a strong position. You may have to accept that W pushed to elicit a reaction from you, so observe instead and detatch. And it is very hard to do at these emotional times.
Ins, you were trapped in a small space with W and emotional flooding of reactions and hormones. That can be challenging for those of us who are older and more experienced. Simply put Ins, STFU and walk away, defer dealing with W in these situations until you are calmer.
As Mza says you did state your position on your S and we know you have a very strong bond as a loving father. The police is an overreaction but it is done and dusted.
Do get yourself an L and keep on posting, so you have the benefit of support here. let us know what you were advised. V
Last edited by Vanilla; 01/31/1503:29 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
