Old dog seeks new trick 7

[Vanilla]

OD

DB is for you my friend. We DB for the changes for ourselves any effect on our M is an additional side effect.

We take an action because it works for us not to attract an errant spouse, you know this. Being alone when W is away being wayward is very hard and painful until you detatch. In order to do this you have to live a life of your own, and V believes that is the only way to manage an in house separation. That does not mean being uncaring, it means letting go of the outcome.

I am voting for letting waywards take the full force of their actions. Some how it is best to move out and other times best to stay put. Only OD can decide what is best for OD and his family unit. Please make your decision with a cool head and in a peaceful heart. My great concern for OD is that he moves on without having built his life and that would just take OD from one place to another without changing any core behaviour. OD just takes his sitch and baggage with him, the same pain but in a different location. It leaves OD in a vacuum and reduces the time OD has living with his children.

If OD examines HPs thread then he will see a young man with a new life and struggles but one who embraced the change. It was a positive decision to move forward. OD that is different to moving out to expose W to the results of her decisions. W is cake eating, yes of course, and it horrible but not unexpected.

OD make a move for your own sake, to become unstuck and to cease being in a situation which is undermining you. Do so because it is best for OD and not as a reaction to W having an A. Have this as a positive step. Move to embrace the new and not to avoid the old.

If V were there, you would get a cup of tea and a kindly hug.

(((((OD))))))

V