Old dog seeks new trick 7

[LoveMyW]

I really am much better at detaching than I was before now I've learnt some new tools to help, and I think I could stick it out. But something has to change because I have been doing this now for months and it is not working. In fact it has become worse with OM turning up.

If it's not moving out, then what else can I change. We hardly ever talk about the relationship. WAW is quite happy with me working away during the week and the money I earn, she likes her job 2 mins down the road, she likes the attention OM is now giving her. She's got the kids here.

What is in any of ths for me?

Agreed that you are more detached now, but it needs to be further..

As they say "do what works".. If you have not found anything that is working, then change until you find something that does.. I spent months myself with no change in my sitch, yet once I got on to LC/NC I noticed changes happening.. My W is starting to spew a bit now and is starting to become slightly wishy washy.. As pointed out to me, and in my own thoughts, her emotions are now starting to play on her mind..

Not saying this is what you have to do, but you have to plant the seed..

How do you know that she is HONESTLY happy with everything that is going on??.. My W always said she was happy with her life when I was in the begging/pleading stage, but I could/can tell it is only superficial.. I look in to her eyes and see that it is a front, much like we all put up to feel happy.. OM is doing nothing but filling a void.. This isn't sustainable just as us LBS acting happy isn't sustainable.. We need to GAL etc to make it true..

What is in this for you??.. Learning and becoming a better man/father.. I was never a bad dad, but now I'm better than I ever was.. Make every moment count..