Phew. Sounds similar to my night yesterday. Back to start DBing from scratch. Although it didn't resolve your limbo at all. Limbo was killing me for so long. But now I don't feel any better, even worse. At least for now. Divorce is on the table..it's getting real
Stay strong please. We can't get off course. Only let love talk, not anger, no grief. If you can't control yourself just leave. Tell her "I can't have a conversation with you when we are heated up, it's nothing personal but I want to do this right, so please respect that, let's calm down and talk later or tomorrow".
But like Mozza always tells me, things usually get much worse before they get better.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15