This can't be the end! #2

[LoveMyW]

I'm not a violent man, but I am capable of it and I'm worried I won't be able to control myself if/when that happens.
I'm certainly much more likely to get like that rather than sit back and let some guy F*** my wife whilst they laugh at me.

Hey Barry!!.. I'm going to fully catch up on your sitch shortly, but this comment you made has had me wanting to respond straight away..

Due to an old way of life and job I used to work, I HAD to be violent at times if the situation required it because it was a case of "it's either them or me".. Needless to say, I do know what I am doing in these situations, and I have seen and experienced things that no man/woman ever should..

Controlling it boils down to detachment with your W.. Flying off the hammer at OM or W isn't going to do anything positive for you.. Think of all the negatives and their repercussions though and see why I say that.. You seem like a smart enough fella and have already thought about that though!!..

About the OM laughing at you, I had feelings of the same thing initially, and you know what??.. I realised I was the one laughing at him..

Why??.. Well I had my W for the best years of her life, gave her her first child, first marriage and longest relationship by far as a surface scratcher.. What can OM give that I can't/haven't??.. A fresh face and that's about it.. He can't give my W her firsts, and nor can he duplicate ANYTHING we have done in our past.. He will NEVER be able to live up to me and is basically living in my shadow..

W may not see it like that, but the facts are on the table and that's all YOU have to look at if OM enters the picture.. Who will be laughing at who then??.. You will both probably be laughing at each other, but your laugh will have much more substance!!..

Just think, any time OM looks at your kids he is looking at YOU!!.. I could keep going, but you get the idea!!..

Stay strong buddy!!..