WAW affair admitted 2

[Ontheup]

Ok
someone give me a 2x4..........ive blown all the rules tonight

All started when wife was asking where 2 bottles of proseco are. Now I ditched them on DDay as I found out OM had bought her one so in my rage I threw them all away.
so I said why and she was annoyed. Also asked if I had been in her fb account which I had. Seeing if she defriended my dad. So now she's really annoyed.
So we were both blaming each other and not taking any responsibility for the mess we're in. after a bit we calmed down and actually talked.
She is still really annoyed about me cheating on her 3 years ago. recons this is where it all began which isn't true. we were already in trouble. she was saying she thought I was one of the good guys and all men are bastards. I said I was sorry I let her down but ditto basically she has also let me down. She recons if I hadn't told her that she would feel different but now she feels vindicated in her decision to separate. I said that was Bull as she is seeing OM. whatever she said I could respond with that it is the same for both of us. She also said she was very sorry as well and for the 1st time she actually showed some remorse. We went over and over about us not really getting anywhere. I reiterated that I didn't want any of this either but that she had asked me to leave as she needs "space" and I said I would. I told her I understand that she is also just as upset as me and it hurts her just like me but that I cant keep waiting around in hope this will be fixed. I have to move on. I told her about my plan to move to this other house which again she was annoyed about. Saying why didn't I tell her. I said its the same for me, she hasn't mentioned a thing either about OM or her plans. she said she hasn't really spoken to him and hasn't seen him. we just went round in circles both upset getting nowhere. She wants me to stay around the corner really so we can be best friends for our D8. I said I cant do that, too many memories and I need to move on as does she. I did come across as needy which annoys me now. She still getting her cake an eat it. She is clear that her plan B for now is still here. It was obvious I still want to resolve this. In the end we were both resigned that I am moving out. she is still confused and isn't sure. I'm still no wiser about OM although it does seem he has little to do with it but while she is in contact with him it wont stop.
We were both really upset. both very unsure about what we need to do both very annoyed at each other. we did have a big long hug which is the first time in 6 months. both in tears.
has she just played me for a sucker. She now knows where i'm at. Basically back at square one!!!