WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

Hi LMW,
I'm fairly new here so this is just my take on things (i've read all the posts on your sitch - quiet day at work lol).

She definatly sounds confused at the moment, which is probably why the mixture of emotions are spewing from her. Maybe this OM DID tell S6 to P off, but she doesn't want you to know about it and she's angry at him for doing that too. From what you say of him, it could be that she's realising the grass isn't greener etc. This is all speculation obviously, so careful monitoring seems to be in order.

I like the way you're handling all of this, you seem to be in control of your emotions regarding the R/M/OM, and are conducting yourself in the right way IMO.

As I say, my sitch is only 6 weeks since BD, and we have been pretty much NC in that time. I'm four years older than you but have been married three times as long (not that that makes any difference as such). There is currently no known OM in my sitch, but what I'm saying is that I hope (should one come along, which it will do if we don't R), I can conduct myself in a similar way to how you are.

I'll keep up with your sitch, and I'm rooting for you no matter what happens with your M.

Barry.

Thanks for your comments Barry.. I will catch up on your sitch soon, and see if I can give any advice..

I kind of gathered it is the emotions mixed up.. You are probably right about OM actually saying P off and that she isn't real impressed.. I have a sneaky suspicion that W wouldn't tell me as I would have no hesitation in nipping it in the bud, and she knows this.. She knows I am fiercely protective of my children, and credit where it is due that she is too.. Agreed that further monitoring is the go though..

Thanks for the big ups on the handling of the sitch.. It took me quite a while to get where I am now, and still have a ways to go before I am a DB master.. I'm staying on the path though!!..

Keep up with your NC/LC.. It does work wonders for yourself.. I've found that being cordial/polite/neighbour friendly to your spouse when they do talk is the way to go as well.. It puts them in a more comfortable spot when communicating with you..

I hurt enough in my sitch, so I can only imagine what you are feeling with a longer M/R!!.. Keep it in your mind that it does get better though..

Thanks for the cheerleading haha!!..