S2, the supposed "non-scholar", is thriving at the IB school, 4- "4"'s and 2- "5"'s.
He went to his first dance (Mr. Introvert), I gently nudged him when he started getting nervous and wanting to back out, I told him I would stay downtown and if he would try it, if it didn't work out, then he could text me and I'd come get him. So he went. I hung out with my band mates at a club we are trying to get booked at. The dance ended at 11pm, he finally texts me at 11:30, from a cafe with his friends. He had a blast! He was soooo happy !! After we got home, he came to me, misty-eyed a bit, and thanked me, giving me a big hug and an "ILY, Dad". <--- Yeah, a 16 year old young man said and did that, wth?
S3, he is thriving at the IB school as well, 4- "5"'s and 2- "4"'s. He may get bumped up a grade, is in Honor's Society. He has his eyes on college scholarships already, in 7th grade...
But the attitude in the house regarding the importance of school, education and critical thinking has changed drastically, back to my family's views, since she moved out.
I am so grateful to watch and help them come out of their shells, come into themselves. Our R is amazing...
Our talks in the car commuting to school are just amazing, as are the dinner table talks (yes, family dinner is back at least 3-4 nights a week).
Stbxw only sees them a few hours a week, by her choice, and sometimes theirs. She has unlimited visitation, but between her choice, and the schedule of the kids, and s3's choice (he has a lot of anger at her), it is just for a couple hours on the 2 days she picks them up from school. I encourage them to spend more time with her, best that I can, but it's up to them in the end.
She, the kids, and I attended the court required "Focus on Children" class together. Very, very good class. It was very current on latest research, and included a bunch of info that we talk about here. I could tell it opened her eyes a bit, because she cried a few times. The kids had their own class with psychologists teaching and facilitating. I am very glad my state takes the effects on the kids and parental alienation VERY seriously, and is encoded in law. Pretty good for a red state in fly-over-country...
The final D petition is on the judge's desk, hopefully he will sign today, or early next week.
Re-fi attempt in progress. If that fails I have plans B through E planned out, hopefully I can avoid bankruptcy. If not, it is what it is and I'll bulldoze through it. It's what I do.
New Woman is just absolutely awesome, that reminds me that I need to write her XH a thank you card....
My life now is soooo worth the past 3-5 years of pain, heartbreak, and work. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Last edited by TSquared2; 01/30/1509:00 PM.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
