I would just repeat that I think you need to find something that works better for you except that I recognize you have a serious complication in your situation due to your son's health and imminent surgery.
I should point out that I doubt your wife is a stupid woman - and she must have known this would have upset you. Doing this right now, with everything going on with your son is just selfish.
You do need to figure out how to really detach emotionally Old Dog - for the sake of your own health.
