Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

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And again this becomes a technical questions to which it's hard to find an answer:
How do I postpone fast D filing decisions? She is ready to go.
She wants to get out of here asap, to be 'happy' again. Also to have a chance with OM (assumption), and because she thinks I'm suffering, so the faster I get over it the better (plus so that I'll be 'forced' to stand on my own feet)

a & b I can't change. But I can show her I'm fine, by continuing to GAL and detach even more and work hard so I can be independent.

Guess I should see an attorney. But if the D starts rolling I hope she will warm up a bit so we can work together on how to deal with things. Teaming up, healing our relationship, no matter of the outcome. Financially it makes a huge amount of sense to push for legal separation.

It's so awful to see her so determined, so stressed about the situation, me, herself. How she's validating every little thing for herself. That's how we always fought..so stubborn. It's like she WANTS this to be bad, so it's validating D. She doesn't want friendship or anything, bc it would make it harder. It's all subconscious.

I somehow agree what she says, we need to be apart. She needs to fall deep to realize what she's doing, there's no other way. I'll pray for her now every single day.