Up to now I've also been hoping against hope she would come to her senses and have treid my very best to always stay postive and upbeat after the initial shock.
I think we have protected the kids pretty well as I think they are blissfully unaware of the severity of the situation. they both seem pretty happy and have never broached the subject once, with me anyway.
When she went on her first date two weeks ago, DB coach Chuck said that was an opportunity missed to thank her for letting me know so I didn't just 'find out'. I made a point of thanking her the net weekend instead. I guess this is just a continuation no matter how hard it sticks in my craw. She may not do it again though as I didn't exactly react to well ... again. Sigh.
I'm really stuck with wanting to get out and save myself from this torture and doing the best thing for my kids and maybe even my marriage who knows: although then again, the best thing for my marriage may be to leave. Aaaaaaargh!
We also have the added complication in that S15 is going to need a lot of support this year as he has to undergo severe surgery. He's going in for final tests on Monday. We need to be there for him.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner