MLCer and EA w/ OW

[Jack_Three_Beans]

"When all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know ya do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through"

Keep moving Jer.

Thanks for those reminders. I completely expect her to come home in full Monster mode -- or spinning like the Tasmanian Devil...

Yeah? Well stop. Expect neither good nor bad. That's stress you got enough. Expecting bad means your preparing for it and it tempers your own actions and responses in a setting.

I do know that she is noticing my 180s, but her response so far is "why now and not years ago?"

How do you respond?

What do you say if anything to this?

and BTW...we all (those who make 180's) hear this. Its justification in their minds to keep pulling away.

My response had been:

"Well I'm doing it now, I should have done it long ago. It took what going on to re-find myself. (yes re-find is not a word) Is it a trap? Yes and no. I'd like you to notice, but I'm not doing this for you, I'm doing this for me."

When/if she ever says too little too late.

Agree with her. It should have been more. She is right.

We all, all of us here made the mistake of taking our spouses for granted. So did she. We all should have been treating our spouses like we did on our wedding day every day should have been an opportunity to show or remind them of why they loved us...and we all fell down. We all sort of just stopped doing that.