It may feel like he's waving it under your nose, he isn't. He isn't decorating his car with having an affair balloons or anything. He isn't calling her in front of you...I understand how it feels but he really isn't rubbing your nose in it.
When this happened to me, I split the bank account. I took out half the money and created my own bank account. All the joint bills came out the one that was in both our names. But all my money went into my account first before I transferred any.
I also removed myself from any joint Credit cards.
A words about confronting the OW and Him.
If you do this, how do you see this going down? Is this going to wake him up is he going to see his loving wife calmly confront the vile temptress with too much makeup and saddlebag who seduced him away from her loving arms? Is he going to wake up from under her spell?
OR...
will you being there be a common enemy for both of them?
Have you ever tried to come between two people who were "in love" "soulmates" Maybe a good friend in highschool or college with a person who was totally wrong for them? How did that work out for you? Got left in the dust I'm willing to bet. That confrontation strengthened their resolve. Even if it more than likely didn't last for them.
Confronting her MIGHT make you feel better. Might also involve the police. Might bring them closer together...but it won't bring him back home.
Example: You are underage drinking at your friends house and your mom comes over and catches you, she yells at you all and demands you come home right away. How excited are you at the idea of going home and facing your mom?
Bettcha can't wait.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
