RP. Do you think that was a good thing to do in the end. To be fair, she hasn't thrown anthing in my face untilnow and even than it was me that asked so what's going on? Its just a matter of her thinking she's being courteous by letting me know she'll be out.
OD, I don't know if the way I handled it was good for anyone else, but it saved my sanity. Very early on I realized that if I were to have any hope of forgiving my H for what he was doing, I could not allow certain things in my brain. The more I know, the more I have to forgive. I wasn't trying to pretend it didn't exist, and I know that if we ever do R we'll have to deal with it, but until then I'm trying not to destroy the feelings I have remaining for him.
The other part is that I truly, with all my heart, down to the bottom of my soul, wanted to protect my kids. I would have cut off my right arm to not have them know. And so I did certain things to make it all seem normal, trying to wait it out until H came to his senses. Didn't work, but I tried.
You'll have to decide what's best for you. If you both see it as her being courteous and letting you know her plans, even if those plans are with OM, then that's what you should do. I wouldn't have viewed that as courtesy, myself. For me, that would have been a deal-breaker.
