OD, I wanted to protect my kids like crazy. I allowed H to have his freedom and pretend like everything was OK for 7 months before he insisted on telling the kids and moving out. BUT, the big difference was that H kept to a reasonable schedule, came home every night (with one glaring exception), stuck around on the weekends (mostly). We didn't have one single conversation about the duck, not one. He never indicated when he was going to be with her (I couldn't distinguish it from a business dinner), and I never once accused him of seeing her. I believe if he'd been throwing it in my face by talking about it and not coming home, that would have been a hard line for me. I know for sure that the second time he didn't come home his clothes would have been there to greet him on the sidewalk next morning. For sure.
