It seems to be getting easier and easier every day that she isn't here. Unfortunately (did I really just say that?),
Yeah you did just say that...
And you know what? It's perfectly okay.
You are seeing the reality of the chaos, negative energy, cra-cra they bring into the house with them.
When my stbxw finally moved out last March, the relief and atmosphere change in the house was stunning. Even the kids noticed and talked about it. Since she has been gone, everything is better for the kids and me.
And at the time, I was rather taken aback at the relief I felt, and that I didn't want her back in the house the way she is. And, tbh, I felt some guilt about those feelings (but I'm better now ).
You sound like you are finding your way nicely, keep going!
And it is funny about us LBS re-discovering who WE are, I'm back to wearing cowboy boots with my flannels, I hadn't worn them in years....I missed that part of me.
You got this!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm