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[Panthr]

Squiggy, thanks for checking out my sitch. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. It;s been tough.

Man, what I'm doing doesn't seem inspirational --seems fruitless at times, so thanks. So, originally I thought of 180's and GAL as grandiose then I realized that they donlt have to be. I have the same situation as you with the little ones. I've always been involved heavily but really stepped it up since my W checked out in the fall even before bomb dropped in Oct.

My DB coach Chuck had me ask myself, what would your W say about you? Because she thinks she knows you so well and that you can't change, so that had me thinking....

**Working out daily --ran a 5k in Dec, another 5K this weekend, signed up for Tough Mudder in August (haven't told the W -- this is for me)
**Got back in shape
**Bought new clothes, new cologne, underwear, etc
**Make sure that I'm always dressed up --never wear sweats unless I'm working out
**Connect more with friends. I had become isolated over the years --sharing my feelings, opening up about my sitch
**Began drinking beer if I'm out (usually people do this less)--She had thought for years that I'm boring
**The funny one --changed some mannerisms, become a little more crass ...lol
**Some of these are silly, but they are 180's.....post more on FB which I abhore, become more protective of my phone.
**Do less around the house --- I used to clean up all of the time, but have cut back. (we just moved in Oct 13 to what she refers to "my dream house" ) I also stopped finishing our basement -- in lieu of spending more time doing other things.
**More mysterious --- texting more, though usually just checking out this blog or keeping notes on my phone.

Hope this helps. I'm sure that there are more that I'm doing but thise we just a few. Sometimes in marriage we lose ourselves and now we have the time we didnlt have before to find ourselves again. Don't necessarilly change the good things about you and who you are --just continue to to do those even more --accentuate your postitives.