Hi SRD. I moved to that area to join H. At BD, I went to stay with my parents for a bit - feeling devastated/traumatised etc. As things played out, I realised I couldn't bear to return to that area or our marital home.

So, I stayed with my parents for a few months and then decided to rent a flat here - 2 hours away. It may not have been the best decision financially....but I made it in crisis mode, and now I have to work with it. A good thing about the decision is that SS has been able to remain in our marital home.

My sitch is different to many/most as H and I have no choldren together.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus