Toots is moving forwards..

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So, the L just called me back & asked me to set out what I hope to do in an email. Here is what I have sent.

Thanks for the recent meeting. I have had a think about what I would like to do, and there are some principles I want to work with:

1. I don't want to file for divorce at this point
2. I do need to resolve my financial instability
3. I want to do this in a minimal, simple, constructive way if possible
4. I don't want to jeopardise a full financial settlement in the event we divorce
5. I want to protect my interest in 'marital assets' going forwards

What I have in mind for now is the release of a 'pot' of money that I brought into the relationship (equity from the sale of my previous home.) Ideally, I would like this sum confirmed as a non-marital asset and released to me now for my use. It was used as a down payment for our marital home.

I would also like for restrictions to be agreed on the movement/disposal of funds that may be marital assets, and in which I may have an interest.

If we could meet to discuss the viability of this (or a similar) plan, I would be grateful. I haven't discussed this with my husband yet, and have no idea how amenable he may be. Before I raise it with him, I want to be sure that it is a reasonable way for me to proceed.