Nah no mush going on in your thoughts matey, everything you've said here is perfectly clear. You're right and I've had similar feelings on ok if w doesnt work out what's next?
I mentioned a friend of mine pushed up a dating profile for me, he sent me the links that came in (have told him please stop at the mo) but it was interesting looking at the limited access (havent paid for a subscription obviously) information on those who'd pinged/winked (whatever) at me. Do sometime think going for a platonic drink etc would be very nice indeed but not this way..yet for me.
For you the sitch is different and I totally get you wanting to grab a coffee (remember we're not talking you jetting off around the world here and I checked but Fabio still isnt around) and chat. I also get why thats a huuuuuge change from situation normal and the number of questions and doubts it must raise.
My advice, for what its worth, is go with the flow. When you see rhc/other guy what do you feel? Want to chat? Chat, or say hey I really want a coffee at lunch (etc) what you up to, if they're busy raincheck? Or similar anyway.
Our Gg is in control of herself, she's not taking anything from anyone now and is her own pilot. You decide the course my friend
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015