WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

Ok, so cracks in W's outer are starting to appear, or at least that is what I THINK I am seeing..

We had kid exchange today for my weekend with them.. W arrived a bit earlier than expected (only 10 mins or so) and I was in the shower after work when they knocked on my door.. I basically jumped out of the shower, wrapped a towel around me and went to the door to let them in..

I quickly greeted them and started to make my way back to the bathroom to get dressed etc.. Well W decided to engage me in some very idle chit-chat as I was walking back, but it was enough to answer.. Well I was standing there talking and caught her blatantly checking me out.. Like the full up and down with a glint in the eye.. I must admit, it gave the ego a boost as I am looking fairly good after a bit of working out!!..

Anyway, after W left the kids filled me in one their last few days as they always do.. S6 mentioned that OM told him to "P" off when he went in to W's bedroom.. I called W to ask about this to see if it was true or not.. I was cool, calm and collected when I called W, and kept a light tone on the question.. She answered me that although he was told to go back to bed, "P" off wasn't included by either her or OM..

I said that her saying that was fine, but I'm not OK with OM disciplining our children, especially that he isn't well know (apparently).. Well she got irate, told me that she would never let anything happen to the kids and tried to goad me in to an argument.. I didn't bite.. I told her that I wasn't OK with her raising her voice at me, swearing or using a tone and requested that she stopped (pretty much the exact words)..

She was still the same after that so I politely ended the call.. 5 mins later I receive a text which was a bit left field.. W wrote:

I know what you are playing at, you are trying to word your words right so you can take the kids off me.. I have never said you can't be active in knowing what the kids are doing but there is a thing called trying to dictate someone.. As it seems that you are pretty much saying that we harm the kids. Which I would never harm my children or put them in harm or someone else..

^^ Basically how it was written..

I replied that I wasn't will to text back an answer, but I would rather answer her by voice as texting about something like this can be misconstrued.. She called 2 mins later.. I mentioned to her that I was sorry she felt that way, but I no way intended for her to think that..

We had a short chat and I re-stated that I wasn't ok with the spew, nor was I good with OM disciplining S's.. She seemed a bit more receptive this time, but still not quite happy.. I said to her that I've gone from seeing the kids 24/7/365, to 8 days a month minimum and that I was just checking facts to keep smooth co-parenting.. She agreed that I did have a right to ask, and that "You know you can have the kids more when your time allows" (kid time has NEVER been a problem between us, and still isn't), "You don't know how much I hurt when I drop them off and don't see them for the weekend" (good one W!!)..

I very nearly un-DB'd by saying "It doesn't have to be like this".. I caught myself in time and just validated..

Why am I mentioning about cracks??.. Because W went from obviously attracted to irate to upset all within the space of an hour or so.. Something is going on here and I can't put my finger on it.. Am I rocking the boat??..