I have not contacted a lawyer at all yet for fear that it signaled the end which is not what I want
vdub, right now your biggest enemy is fear. Like they say, knowledge is power. Power to overcome fear.
KNOW what you rights are to combat this cr@p W is throwing at you regarding the kids by talking to an L.
KNOW what the D process is by talking to an L. I promise it will be less scary. Just because you meet with an L does not signal the end.
KNOW how to handle this sitch by getting DB/DR ASAP. There is info in there that will help you. And read other sitches and post here. We are all your fans. We want you to be a better vdub however this turns out.
KNOW that W is no longer the person you married.
KNOW that your life will go on no matter how this stich turns out. And you have a very important role in 4 people's lives. That of Dad. Nothing and no one can take that from you.
Sorry to be direct, but you have an immediate respondibilty to little ones to make sure their welfare is safe. After that, you have a long road ahead. It can't be ruled by fear.
