I agree with the above posters. You need to get legal advice to protect your kids. Plus your wife will begin to see there are consequences for her choices.
I have been married twice. I left my first husband after 11 yrs and four kids. We too had been high school sweethearts. For me the things I was willing to tolerate when I was twenty I was not willing to tolerate at 30. I had tried to get him to work on his anger issues three yrs before we split. This went on deaf ears. I warned him that one day I would have had enough. He didn't believe me. When that day came he begged, and pleaded. He did everything that this site tells you not to do. All it did was push me further and further away.
Your wife may be trying to recapture a youth that she never experinced as a single person. She's may be trying to find herself. Unfortunately she's forgetting that being a Mother is not a job you can put on hold. She may need a professional to set her straight. She may have an addiction to Alcohol.
In time she may miss her old life. This is a journey she needs to travel. All you can do is protect yourself and your family. Don't beg, don't plead. Don't try and control her choices. Focus on you. Get help from an IC if you can. Get to know you. Try and keep busy. Plan fun things. Let her see the strong, positive healthy you. She will notice.
You will hear this is a marathon not a an easy road. DB is for you. Who knows what the future holds. Like the saying goes...If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours.....if it doesn't it never was. Some people are in our life for a reason, a season or a life time. Keep your chin up and keep posting
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
