I so understand how you feel C. I too communicated with my H. I was never one to give him the cold shoulder. I could articulate very well what was bothering me. I would think he heard me and understood. In reality he stuffed his feelings or just got defensive. He was never able to express his feelings. He too built up walls of resentment for things I don't even know.

We can't force them to get help. We can only control ourselves. If your H. Is a people pleaser you cannot trust he is being honest with you or placating. It is up to him to do the work to learn how to express his own needs and be honest. He is not living an authentic life.

Me 52 H 44
T9 M 5
BD 12/11 H
split 8/12
OW moved in 12/12
OW gone for good 6/14
We get closer again 9/14
SD 13 Me 4 Grown





Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.