-- I will I think as him to meet me for coffee in a few weeks. I want to discuss SD, his paying me what he owes and filing for divorce.
May I ask what there is to discuss? I'm being sincere. Are there risks to informing him in advance? Why bother?
Are you hoping, deep down, that the "talk" will really be an attempt to "wake" him up?
As long as you truly have no expectations of him "changing!", is this a way to reduce legal fees?
What could he say to stall you from filing? B/C my guess is, that's what he'll say.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Wow 25yrs. Thank you for sharing. That was beautifully written.
I work on a Nero surgical ward. I am reminded daily how precious life is. i have held the hand of many as they have taken their last breath. I feel it is an honor to assist someone from this life to the next. Life is a gift.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
He has until July 1 at the latest to pay me 75k. In a few weeks. Maybe March April. I want to talk to him find out when this will happen. I'd rather not have to go to a lawyer. Our agreement is legal and binding. I'll file once he pays me out.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
I know that my W was done....but even after I told her i would file and then i did file she tried to convince me to stop the process due to financial changes that would occur. She asked me to just live separate and continue to pay the bills like we were but to feel free to date and do as I pleased.
It was about our things together. Not about US. I couldn't do that.
Be careful of why they might ask you to hold up on making this thing official....it may just be for convenience. My 2 cents.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Ps don't do anything if you can't follow it through (I.e. File for D) or if its just out ofnanger or to "wake them up". No sense wasting the time and money if you're not really ready.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Hi Paul, thanks for weighing in. Mine has to pay me out regardless. I'm not sure why he hasn't filed for D. For me it's about my personal values and respect
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
Its a horrible situation for your SD. Icome from a divorced family and know that its better to be loved and cared for by 1 parent (or S parent or gran) then live with someone who doesnt care. Its horrible. But you cant change it. You can not change his behaviour towards SD. All you can do is be there for her. She will have to live with the scars and he with the regret. Tho it might not come until his deathbed. If he doesnt show signs of paying you, enforce it through court and get a debt collector.
I m praying for you and your SD!
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
