I get where you're coming from, Ss, my STBX worked himself into a four page lather of righteousness when he asked for our separation. It was all about him and his bliss and how I couldn't help him find it. Gag.
HOWEVER, by the time we had the conversation you're facing, I had had a lot of time to realize who he really is and how little a place I had in his thinking. I also didn't have fresh visuals of all my evidence in my mind. It was a lot easier for me to be calm than I think it would be for you. Which doesn't mean I think you should choose one way or another.
He's asking, but that doesn't mean you have to do things in his time. You know what you want: to get your ducks in a row and make sure you and D7 are protected. Whether that requires a private conversation, a meeting with lawyers, or him holding forth in an email, that's up to you. AFTER you've taken some good advice.
He's the one proposing the forward motion, so you're the one holding better cards at the moment. Don't intimidate yourself into thinking you've got no power. You've been really smart with this. That is power. It won't hurt at all to let him sweat a little bit. Do what feels appropriate to you.
Race you to the end.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
