train, 25yrs, others who kept up on my sitch

[twinmom]

Ok, some things on paper so I can "think out loud"

Things H does
..brings me coffee even when I don't ask for it
..takes care of the kids and lets me sleep in
..tells me to go take a hot bath/run errands on my own and he will put the kids to bed
..starts my car if I am taking the boys to school
..does laundry, sweeps, loads dishwasher, irons
..gives me a kiss goodbye every morning
..rubs my back BUT only when asked, NEVER does he initiate touching me anytime other than the goodbye kiss




Things that are huge issues for me
..no physical touching, he doesn't physically pursue me
..no compliments, he hasn't told me I am pretty, beautiful, sexy in 2 years
..not fully transparent, won't give up the code to his phone
..doesn't say I love you


Things that are different than before (his attempts at trying?????????
..calls me/texts me when he is going to be even a few minutes late
..tells me about meetings, where and when
..talks to me about his day, who he works with and what is going on at work.