Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

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By the way, I don't want to protect what she has done. But I know she is better than that. I wouldn't even take her back right now. Not before she realizes what she has done and fully respects me as a person, for who I am and for how good of a person I am.
I'm not putting up with being 2nd choice, other people would've packed their bags and left already. My mom actually keeps pressing the topic "don't let her crush you, your dad would've left a long time ago, don't let her do that to you...."
My situation is unique but I should stand up for my believes like a man. ...love isn't easy. Marriage isn't either. I'm sure there's people in here that WAS is going much crazier than mine. But at least most of them are leaving moving in with OM/OW and separate for real. This limbo thing is killing me.

As much as I want to tell her that I don't think the timing is right, nor will she understand. I need to be more patient, although the limbo is wearing very hard on me.
Thanks for the wake up call tho. I almost lost this "healthy anger" which you could call a boundary that keeps me a) detached b) sane c) a person with feelings that cannot accept too much BS