Good to hear you're doing well! I've found that I had to let go of the past. As much as I want my W back, I can't control what she does, only what I do. The past is gone and will never come back and truthfully I'd never want to go back to being the person I was before.
No matter what happens I know my future will be great, my kids have both their parents and I'm better than I've ever been.
I also think the more positively we think about the future the better our present is AND there's a much better chance for the future to be what we hope it to be.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS