Mighty, I have been thinking along the lines of what KML wrote. He isnt baked yet..and I think he is still pretty uncooked. If I were you, I would be prepared for anything.
That's why you need to let him go. I mean really and truly. I know you are trying. I think you think you are a bit further along than you actually are, though.
I know this has been a freakin whirlwind for you. Here's the thing. There is peace on the other side. Once you can really leave him to his journey and continue taking yours, you are getting closer to it.
Once you can see that you have no control over the outcome, you are getting closer.
When you know, without a single doubt that you will be ok; when you embrace that he has a long way to go and you have a life to live; when you can accept what is you will be closer.
Mighty, he is a mess. Thats the truth of it. You need to get out of the way of it so you dont get any of it on you.
I know its so hard. You have been with him your whole life. Built a family, a home, a business with him. And you wonder what the heck happened.
A crisis hit. He is swirling in it. He tried to bring you into the vortex because he wanted the spinning to stop. But it doesnt work that way.
The only way it works if for him to go through it. The only way it works for you is for you to let him.
Live your life. Enjoy your kids. Find you. Get good and strong. Feet firmly planted. Your center solid.
Then, one day, if he has done the work and he wants back in, you make a decision based not on fear or familiarity but on strength.
