Yes, I have read them...multiple times over the past year. I keep the list on my phone at all times in order to remind me. It's gold, that list. But I am terrible at doing the things on it consistently...and because of my situation, some things don't work well.
For example, because of my infidelity, "be mysterious" backfires hugely, even if I do it in a small way. I am not secretive by any means - all of my life is open for him to check - but if I go out shopping for example, he won't say anything while I am doing it, but afterward he will make a nasty comment about how I must be cheating again because I went out alone. If I go exercise, he insinuates that I am calling guys. I always answer the phone when he calls. I am NOT now, nor ever will be unfaithful again, and I have stated this multiple times, but he doesn't believe it. I always invite him along with me. When he makes those comments, I just respond with "You are welcome to come with me anytime." I'm not sure what else I can do there.
I think I'm going to go through the rules list here and make a post about which ones I've tried and which don't seem to work - maybe get some specific feedback that way. Thank you for the idea:)
Me: 31 H: 37 T: 10 M: 9 BD: 2012 H draws up papers: Oct. 2014 H files: Oct. 2015 D final: was Feb. 10, now postponed b/c I hired L. Currently: wondering if it's kinder just to let him go. So confused.
