I am quite tough on sorting out fins. It is part of being assured and I think important. H is comfortably living in your old joint home. Especially if there is a mortgage and you are paying that. The only good news might be equity growth.
My H is living in the house I owned before I met him, as am I. After speaking to L I have been told that as I have assets and a business H has a good claim even though we have only been M for one year plus. So I agreed a fixed settlement figure with him, to be paid when the house is sold. It suits me to move and to agree the sum. it is generous. H was horrid to start with but it settled down. Now that I have an agreement I know that I can let H S or D taking the attitude H if you want to then ok but I will not help you on this path.
It has actually eased the emotional stress for me. H does not pay his share of the bills which is unfair and causing me to have to work very long hours. My fins are very stressed until I can sell the house. But at least I know the bottom line.
If you are holding on to your H ( or trying to) by dismissing your rights to an early fins settlement, then you are doing yourself a disfavour. Making H face the full consequences of his actions may not happen if he is comfortable financially.
Take extra L advice dear brave Toots so you know what your position is. Chose a specialist, have your docs organised and some basic asset and income schedules. You can do this sensible step.
We are here to talk you through it.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 01/29/1510:32 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
