Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

[gogofo]

Don't try to grab a mile from an inch. That'll piss W off...as she did recently. How about a smile and say, "I had fun! Thanks for this" and then be the first to leave.

Can you do this??

Yes I can. This has been my focus as of the last two weeks. Thanks for the suggested phrase, it helps me with what to do and puts me in a better mind set.

We have been enjoying time we spend together recently. Since I have been served D papers and think that W will go through with it this time, it has changed the dynamic of our R. Now we just talk without any pressure of the MR or piecing. We talk freely and enjoy each other.

GoFo, are any of them true and were they some of the comments W made to you over the time?

If you answered yes, then I would take a hard look at them and figure out a way to make the necessary changes. FOR YOU. Not for W. For yourself because, after all, you'll live with YOURSELF for the rest of your life.

Perhaps you might want to do some small changes from the above list and then the rest will fall in place. Make sense?

What would you like to do in order to become a better man and better father?

The list you pulled was spot on with a list I made and went through with my DB Coach. I have made changes for quite a number of these negatives, and I keep trying to make changes on some of the others.

She has said at different times that the changes in me seem unusual and surprising and hard to get used to at times because they are a 180 from how I was.

There is always room to work on myself more. I have taken a hard look at myself, on different occasions, and probably am due for some more introspection now that my life is going to change again with me moving out of the W's current house and me buying my own, and the D talks she has been having with me.

Thanks for the help Wonka