I know that my W was done....but even after I told her i would file and then i did file she tried to convince me to stop the process due to financial changes that would occur. She asked me to just live separate and continue to pay the bills like we were but to feel free to date and do as I pleased.

It was about our things together. Not about US. I couldn't do that.

Be careful of why they might ask you to hold up on making this thing official....it may just be for convenience. My 2 cents.

me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14