I am going back to the letter you wrote and pick out the negatives. This way, you'll see them clearly and think about HOW you want to do things differently.
Negatives
-Stubborn -Opinionated -"Never" compromising -Selfish -Not considerate of W's needs -"Controlled" W's schedule -Less socialization -"Controlling" -Starting and "never" finishing projects -Controlling money -Taking more and more of the relationship -Never giving -Not valuing W's opinion -Ideas and opinions superior to W -Did not communicate with W -Did not listen to W -Actions made W "feel" worthless and unlovable
GoFo, are any of them true and were they some of the comments W made to you over the time?
If you answered yes, then I would take a hard look at them and figure out a way to make the necessary changes. FOR YOU. Not for W. For yourself because, after all, you'll live with YOURSELF for the rest of your life.
Perhaps you might want to do some small changes from the above list and then the rest will fall in place. Make sense?
What would you like to do in order to become a better man and better father?
